The good ones are worth waiting for

It's worth waiting for the right man

Men to avoid:

1. Any man you've already left because the relationship didn't work the first, second or third time. Don't be a repeat offender.

2. Men that are womanizers. If he's watching her while eating lunch outdoors with you, you should see a red flag. Also known as skirt chasers and horn dogs.

3. Cave men. At the least sign of trouble, they run to their caves and let you solve the problem alone. They will not be there for you when you need them the most. So ask yourself if you need them at all.

4. Compulsive liars. I once dated a man who forgot to mention he was married. Once, at a meeting, I walked in to find his wife sitting on his lap telling the whole room how her wolfy would never ever cheat on her.

5. Double booked wonders. These are the men with schedules so full you are lucky to see them once in a blue moon. If you find your boyfriend is cancelling every other date, it's time to move on.

6. Cheapskates: I'm not saying a man has to pick you up in a limo and take you out on his yacht. I'm saying if your date is constantly eating off your plate, and making you pick up the tab for everything, you should ask yourself if you really want to be in that relationship five years from now. Do you really want to date someone who wants to park 8 blocks away because they don't want to pay the $5 valet fee? Or worse, turns around and goes home because there is no parking the first lap around the block?

You want a man with character, not a man who is a character.

Look for these traits:

1. Considerate. Doesn't just bring you a coke, but brings your brother one too.

2. Prompt. Doesn't leave you standing at the movie theater entrance, only to arrive 20 minutes after the show started.

3. Career minded but not career obcessed. Makes a decent living, but doesn't work so many hours you start to wonder if he moved to another country.

4. Spiritually compatable.

5. Politically compatable or politically indifferent.

6. Good with children. Even if you don't want to have children, do you really want him snarling every time a child is in the vicinity?

7. Dresses appropriately when it's important. I don't care if he has a blue mohawk and 300 piercings when you are out on the town, but he should be willing and able to tone it down at your grandfather's funeral.

8. Not married to sports unless you are too.

9. Is positive minded and not sarcastic and cynical. Otherwise it will just drag you down over time.

10. Willing to try new things. Beware of control freaks. If you are always doing what he wants and he's rarely willing to do what you want to do, that's a big red flag. I'll never make that mistake again.

11. Slow to anger. This includes road rage. And when he is angry, he expresses it appropriately.